Eggshell Therapy and Coaching specialises in working with people who are emotionally intense, sensitive, and gifted.
Some people feel more intensely, are more aware of subtleties, and process information more deeply than others. Unfortunately, we live in a culture that does not fully understand or embrace this trait. Emotionally intense individuals are told by people around them as being ‘too much', ‘too sensitive’, 'too overbearing', 'too dramatic', or ‘too emotional’. Many find themselves being misunderstood, plagued by shame or self- criticism, and not being able to reach their full potential.
Emotional intensity is not a pathology, but a unique personal trait. It is a mixed blessing, a gift, and a foundation for growth.
My goal is to help you answer these questions:
Is there something wrong with me?
How does being emotionally intense explain my life experiences so far?
What can I do right now to better my life and to fulfil my potential?
DO YOU FEEL AND LIVE MORE INTENSELY THAN OTHERS?
Emotional Intensity can be expressed and experienced in different ways, for a full description, see here.
You have the ability to feel complex emotions at the same time, perhaps a constant stream of both positive and negative feelings — pain, distress, despair, fear, excitement, love, sadness or happiness.
Sometimes, feelings can become so powerful and compelling that you feel out of control, losing the ability to think straight, or to the point where they are unbearable.
On the flip side, you can be flooded by unexpected waves of joy, be deeply moved by music, art, beauty, and have bursts of creative insights.
You are naturally excitable and passionate— even if you don’t show it on the outside.
In social situation, you 'absorb' other people's emotions, and can be overwhelmed by stimuli, noises, or social nuances.
Psychological distress are sometimes expressed in the body — common symptoms are migraine headaches, nausea, skin allergies, asthma, and panic attacks.
You have a deeper-than-normal capacity for compassion, empathy, and sensitivity in relationships.
You form strong emotional attachments to people, places, and things, or finding separation difficult since a young age.
You may be shockingly accurate in noting the unspoken social nuances and relational dynamics. Even this overwhelms you sometimes, you cannot ‘un-see’ things, and you cannot stand inauthentic people and situations.
You have an innate urge to push the boundaries of conformity, even when it makes life difficult for you sometimes.
Being acutely aware of the suffering, hypocrisies and complexities of life, you may constantly feel older than others around you, like an ‘old soul’ that has somehow lost his/her roots.
You are highly driven, and can be 'perfectionistic', which can be expressed as chronic anxiety and restlessness.
You have incessant internal dialogue and obsessive thoughts.
From a young age, you live with an existential angst, a sense of urgency, an impulse to move forward, a constant need to learn and to advance your life path.
You experience existential depression over the meaninglessness of life, death, and loneliness.
You have been diagnosed/ mis-diagnosed with mental illnesses such as Borderline Personality Disorder, Bipolar Disorder, or ADHD.
emotional instability/ borderline personality traits
I also specialise in working with people affected by traits of emotionally unstable/borderline personality disorder. By combining traditional wisdom and the newest findings in neuroscience, the focus of our work is on helping you resolve the following negative patterns that seem to happen again and again in your life:
Extreme and unpredictable mood swings
Sensitivity to criticism and rejection, over-reacting to certain situations
Being drawn to the same type of partner/ relationship over and over, even when your emotional needs are not met
Being isolated and feeling alienated by others
Getting stuck in patterns of impulsive and self- sabotaging behaviours
Struggling to say no, feeling guilty even when you have done nothing wrong
Feeling numb and empty for most of the time, except when the emotions 'explode'
Chronic anxiety and restlessness
THERAPY AND COACHING
My goal is to create deep and lasting shifts that dispel your difficulties at their roots. On top of a mere intellectual shift (which is where many traditional forms of therapy, such as short-term CBT, stops) , we aim for changes on a visceral and emotional level. Because true healing and come from lasting changes on all aspects- physical, emotional and behavioural, our work should be integrative and holistic. Instead of having a fixed, rigid modal, we will find out what works best for you.
We may use or combine the following approaches:
Schema Therapy, Mentalization-based Therapy (MBT), Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR), Dialectical Behavioural Therapy (DBT);
Mindfulness-based therapies (MBSR, MBCT), Art Psychotherapy, Psychosynthesis, Creativity Coaching;
Sandplay, Jungian Symbol work, Buddhist Psychology and The Enneagram system
This process can create deep and lasting change because it looks beneath the surface and addresses your core emotional roots that cause the surface problems.
AS MENTIONED IN
- The Telegraph, UK on Borderline Personality Disorder , February 2015
- Marie Claire, UK on high sensitivity and emotional intensity- Issue March 2016
- Happiful magazine, on Emptiness and Borderline Personality Disorder, April 2017
-Refinery29, How Do You Know Which Therapy Is Best For You?, Jan 2017
- The Debrief Magazine, on The realities of dating when you are struggling with your mental health, May 2016