First of all, welcome.
This is a place devoted to helping you make sense of the experience of feeling and living with intensity.
Emotional intensity is not a pathology, but a unique personal trait.
It is a mixed blessing, a gift, and a foundation for growth.
In recent years, there has been growing interest amongst academics and scientists in the relationship between emotional reactivity and behaviours. Psychologists have developed theories on Emotional Sensitivity (HSP), Introversion, Emotional Intelligence , and Giftedness. At the same time, neuroscientists have found that sensory processing sensitivity is highly related to creative ability.
Some people feel more intensely, are more aware of subtleties, and process information more deeply than others. Yet this does not represent a homogenous population, nor is it equivalent to mental illness.
I started Eggshell Therapy and Coaching out of the frustration of seeing intense people in the world being mislabelled, misjudged, and sidelined. When I was working in the National Health System, I saw how the system medicalised the most natural human expressions such as grieve the loss of connection, anxiety in a time of rapid change, or anger for injustice in the world. And despite the clearly documented link between giftedness and emotional intensity, few knew about it. Instead, individuals who feel things deeply were pathologised, institutionalised, or were encouraged to numb out their vitality through drugs.
I was also dissatisfied with the existing self-help resources for highly sensitive people, which focused heavily on protective and defensive strategies, and seemed to perpetuate the idea that they are somehow ‘too fragile for the world’. Through my encounter with many of you, I saw quite the opposite of the victim mentality— with your intensity, sensitivity and perceptivity, intense people have important work to do in the world. Rather than shrinking and hiding and taking a smaller and smaller slice of life, by learning to ground, build resilience you can harness your strengths. A rising tide lifts all boats; I have come to believe that intense individuals are meant to be IN THE WORLD, rather than be on the fringe.
An eggshell looks tough on the outside, but is delicate and soft on the inside. It is extremely sturdy and resilient, and the breaking of it signifies the birth of a new life. Emotional intensity is what makes you unique and powerful. Many individuals who live intensely have a lot to offer, and deserve a vibrant, meaningful life.
what can you offer me?
1. Expertise in emotional regulation, intensity, sensitivity and giftedness
Different from general counselling, I am dedicated to working with issues related to the experience of feeling and living intensely. The process you will experience is synthesised from well-researched psychotherapeutic models that are especially effective with these issues:
Extreme and unpredictable mood swings
Sensitivity to criticism and rejection, over-reacting to certain situations
Being drawn to the same type of partner/ relationship over and over, even when your needs are not met in them
Being and feeling isolated and alienated by others
Feeling stuck in patterns of impulsive and self- sabotaging behaviours
Struggling to say no, feeling guilty even when you have done nothing wrong
Feeling numb and empty most of the time, except when the emotions 'explode'
Chronic anxiety and restlessness
2. Non- pathologising and holistic way of working
The tendency for traditional medical model to pathologise symptoms often do more harm than good. Intensity, as a natural human expression, is not a pathology in itself. It is important that you honour and celebrate your unique gifts in order to live a life with vibrancy and authenticity. When you can present yourself to the world as who you truly are, you will naturally move towards peace, liberation and self fulfillment. I look forward to sharing this journey with you.
3. Addressing the problems at their emotional roots
By addressing the core memories that generate the presenting symptoms, there will be deep and lasting shifts that dispel your symptoms at their roots. This is more than just an intellectual/ cognitive process, but involve changes on a physiological, emotional and energetic level. By combining traditional spiritual wisdom and the newest findings in neuroscience, the goal of our work is to help you transform the unconscious emotional schemas, and to mobilize your innate capacity. It is also about empowering you with the capacity to make lasting changes, rather than keeping you in endless therapy.