therapy and coaching

 

Emotional intensity a mixed blessing, a gift, and a foundation for growth. In recent years, there has been growing interest amongst academics and scientists in the relationship between emotional reactivity and behaviours. Psychologists have developed theories on Emotional Sensitivity (HSP), IntroversionEmotional Intelligence , and Giftedness. At the same time, neuroscientists have found that sensory processing sensitivity is highly related to creative ability. 

I have dedicated my practise to working with emotionally sensitive, intense and gifted individuals on the life themes of: emotional regulation, owning your intensity, sensitivity, living authentically, and releasing your suppressed creative potential. 

I am trained in, and will draw from the following psychotherapeutic models:

Schema Therapy, Mentalization-based Therapy (MBT), Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR), Dialectical Behavioural Therapy (DBT); Mindfulness-based therapies (MBSR, MBCT), Art Psychotherapy, Psychosynthesis, Creativity Coaching; Sandplay, Jungian Symbol work, Relational Psychoanalysis, Buddhist Psychology and The Enneagram system.

 

 

 THE PROCESS

 

Life-long negative patterns that seem to occur again and again in your life require a healing process that can create deep and lasting change, because it looks beneath the surface and addresses your core emotional roots that cause the surface problems. 

Bringing together a myriad of psychological, spiritual and therapeutic prinsiples,  you will be offered a potent integrative approach that is designed specifically to work with issues related to all kinds of intensity (Emotional, Intellectual, Physical). 

Sharing concepts and knowledge with you is a core part of our journey, as my goal is not to keep you in therapy forever. Ultimately, you will be equipped with the necessary skills and capacity so that you can take charge of your own growth.

For a more detailed explanation of what we may achieve through the process, please refer to the Roadmap. 

 

 

 

PHASE 1: GETTING TO KNOW YOUR BLOCKAGES

 

To start, we will try to understand what troubles you and stops you from being your best self. We will work towards identifying some of your old survival strategies, behavioural or thinking patterns that no longer serve you. For example, there were sensations and deep feelings around certain beliefs: ‘People will always leave me in the end’, ‘I can never trust anyone’, ‘I do not fit in anywhere’, and in your attempts to lessen the pain, you might have developed destructive habits or self- sabotaging patterns. 

If you have been through therapy or counselling before you may have come across them as 'Defences', 'Negative Automatic Thoughts', 'Life Traps', 'Maladaptive Schema', 'Inner Critic', 'Negative self-talks' etc. To keep things simple, we call them 'Blockages'. And since they take a wide variety of forms based on who you are and your personal history, I will work with you to design and prioritise your goals.

During this phase, we shall work together to understand more about the parts of you that you don't like or want, and you can begin to feel your inner tension and conflict softening.

Therapy/ Self-development tools that are particularly helpful for growth at this phase:

Dialectical behavioural therapy, Schema therapy, Mentalisation-based treatment, EMDR, Trauma-focused work, Emotional Freedom Technique or tapping, Neuro-sculpting, Ego-state therapy, Cognitive and behavioural therapy.

 

 

 

PHASE 2: HEALING AND MANAGING

 

Once we have identified your blockages, we learn how to manage and, in some cases, transform these challenging parts. We aim at lessening the times when you feel overwhelmed, so you do not have to resort to avoidance or compensatory behaviours (over-eating, over spending, and other destructive habits). We want to integrate the more vulnerable, ‘younger’ parts of yourself, rather than rejecting them, and at the same time minding the  undisciplined, rageful and destructive part of yourself, as well as your inner critic. 


Lasting changes require not only an intellectual understanding but also a relational experience. We will access some of your core wounds through experiential processes such as visual imagery or specific homework assignments.  This step is potentially life-changing, but can also be the most challenging. I will make sure that you have full control over the process and is free to go at a pace that feels safe for you. 

  
Therapy/ Self-development methods that are relevant to this phase:

Emotional Literacy, Mindfulness practice, Gestalt therapy, Art psychotherapy, ‘Non-violent communication’, Relational corrective experience, Systemic psychotherapy, Transactional Analysis , Humanistic and Existential Psychologies, practising assertiveness skills, learning about Group dynamics. 

 

 

PHASE 3: BUILDING YOUR INTERNAL CAPACITY FOR LASTING CHANGES


Our biggest goal is to build a solid sense of self for lasting resilience in all aspects of your life. Through a mixture of psychoeducation and relational experience, we may look at how you can gain inner strength, and to take care of yourself Practically, Emotionally, Interpersonally, and Spiritually. By fully internalising and integrating these new capacities, we hope that you will be able to manage your own emotions, behaviours and relationships in the long run, even after having a course of therapy/ coaching session. 

 

- Practical: Managing the balance between burn-out and bore-out, Learning to self-soothe, Lifestyle support, Life structuring

- Emotional: Befriending different emotions, Riding emotional storms and Managing destructive behaviours

- Interpersonal: Living Authentically, Honouring your values, Communicating your needs assertively, Honouring your deep desires to be heard, seen and received as your true self 

- Spiritual: Learning to trust life, Tapping into your creative resource, Finding your place in the world

 

 

Therapy/ Self-development tools that are particularly helpful for growth at this phase:

Dialectical behavioural therapy, Schema therapy, Mentalisation-based treatment, EMDR, Trauma-focused work, Emotional Freedom technique or tapping, Neuro-sculpting, Ego-state therapy, Cognitive and behavioural therapy.

 

 

PHASE 4: coaching towards YOUR full POTENTIAL


I hope that you can find a place in the world where you are not just tolerated, but celebrated. Remember, you are highly, but not overly intense and sensitive. By this time, I should have known you well enough to work with you to find out your strengths based on your personality and unique personal story. We can work towards maximising your potential through getting in touch with your gifts.

I deeply honour your deep yearning to be seen and heard as who you are, and by finding the right stage for your audience, the right channel for your gifts. We do this by tapping into the seed of your creativity, and channelling your existential angst into a sense of mission and purpose. 

As you step into embracing your unique qualities, I hope you can learn to trust your unique ways of relating to the world and be able to connect to what you have to offer. Themes such as authentic existence, the meaning of life, and purpose of being come to the foreground of awareness, as you embark on the journey towards self- actualisation.

Furthermore, I want you to build a life around your values so you do not struggle with inner conflicts that pain your soul.

Tools that are helpful in this phase: Jungian Symbol work, the Enneagram, personality inventories such as MBTI, Integrative coaching. The work in this aspect may also include practical ways to increase productivity, and to optimise your health, in order to increase creative output. This may involve learning from artists and others who have acheived success in life. 

 

 

In a nutshell

 

To recap, our goals include, but are not restricted to the following: 

1. Knowing your personal history and patterns well enough that when you fall back to old survival strategies or mind traps, you can wake up in reactivity and not let it run the show.

2. Knowing your emotions well enough that when it comes up you can recognise it, name it, and know what to do with it.

3. Being able to stay connected with others whilst being true to yourself.

4. Being empathic with others without losing your personal boundaries.

5. Knowing your unique strengths and gifts in order to live a fuller life.