I offer an exclusive email feed sharing psychological theories, survival tips and therapeutic insights.
If you are not sure that you are ready for therapy, or are not in the financial position to take up one-to-one work, this may be the best place to start.
Each month, you will receive:
- Psychological insights and latest research about emotional intensity, sensitivity and giftedness
- The art and science on how to live life fully
- Practical advice to help you manage emotional storms and conflicts
- Small practises you can do to better your life
Here are some of the previous letters:
How can you be yourself, even when you are different? Can you live with full integrity, without being attacked or annihilated?
We shall explore how to survive situations and conventional settings in which you don’t neatly ‘fit in,' or even inadvertently attacked or put down. We will discuss how to manage painful emotional flashbacks, set personal and psychological boundaries, bounce back from interpersonal injuries, and ultimately, use these hostile situations as opportunities to learn and grow.
Can you feel truly belonged, if you are not being yourself?
Here is the news:
You are allowed to tell someone you are angry, annoyed, frustrated, even when there is no ‘justified,' ‘logical’ reason.
You are allowed to tell the world the strength and velocity of your feelings.
You are allowed to stop putting on that fake smile.
You do not need anyone’s permission for all the intensity inside of you to come up and come out.
Can you be emotionally intense and emotionally empty at the same time?
Do you have a mind too busy, yet a heart that feels vacant?
How is it that you can be both too full and too empty?
People who were born emotionally intense, sensitive and are gifted with heightened perceptivity are like powerful sports cars.
In the right condition and with the right keeping, they can be one of the most high-performing machines in the world and win many races. The problem is, however, that they may not have been taught how to run this powerful machine.
Spiritual practice is the act of harnessing a kind of soul strength that is deeper than what meets the eyes.
By having the ability to see, hear and know the mysteries that lies beyond science and logic, we can draw power from something much greater than ourselves.
Here are four spiritual lessons that are especially relevant and useful to the emotionally intense and spiritually sensitive individuals.
People do not ‘get back to normal’ after a loss. Grief doesn't move us towards a new solution, but rather, a transformation. A crisis like this can set us free by revealing the truth about life— that it is unpredictable and sometimes precarious. We are forced to break through the illusion that we can control life, and to face the raw reality of how little power we have. If we can face and accept this, we can access the deep peace that is within us.
Have you ever wondered why you attracted a certain type of people into your life?
Or, why do you keep coming across the same type of problems with authority figures or romantic partners?
Why do you seem to behave or react in ways that seem irrational?
The psychology concept of transference may help us understand these relationship phenomena.
Intellectually, we know that our parents cannot change who they are; Rationally, we know that the past is in the past. On many levels, we have forgiven them. However, these do not change the emotional reality that is raw, heavy, reactive, uncontrollable and full of rage.
Part of you wants to love and trust wholeheartedly, to immerse in all-encompassing love, to experience exuberant joy and excitement, whilst another part of you is anxious about losses, betrayal and abandonment.
All you have to do, is to preserve the part of you that is curious, and see the world as presenting to you a series of exciting learning opportunities.
You do not have to be ‘there’ already, you are already at your healthiest when you keep your mind open, recognise your own gifts and virtues, and proactively strive towards becoming the best version of yourself.
Our ultimate yearning as human beings is to be seen, heard, and accepted for the full extent of who we are.... You do not have to choose between power and love, or between freedom and connection. You can have both.
It is not about worshiping a deity, but about harnessing a sense of trust that your life is unfolding in the perfect order.
After having spent years trying to break free from the chain of pain and guilt, you have successfully walked away and built a life outside of home- yet somehow, minutes into a reunion can have you regressed back into feeling and behaving like a vulnerable child, or a raging teenager.
We can think of the practice of drawing boundaries as self-parenting. ...There will always a young and rebellious child within us that wish to push the boundaries, that argues back and pushes you to reach for that cake.
Finding your flow is especially challenging if you have heightened intensity in one or more areas —because ‘common sense’ or ‘general rules’ do not apply in your case... Others may be surprised by, or even feel intimidated by your lifestyle choices.
Do you sometimes find yourself acting in ways that are‘out-of-character’ ?
Do you struggle with powerful surges of emotions such as anger or envy and cannot legitimise their causes?
Do you sometimes feel surprised by aspects of your personality?
Often, an emotionally intense people not only feel like they are the black sheep in society, but also the ‘problematic ones’ in their own family.