Change takes time.
Sometimes dedicating time beyond the typical therapy hour to additional resources can allow the learning or insights to cement. We believe that the therapist does not hold the cure-for-all, but acts as a trusted partner in the journey of growth; thus our goal is to celebrate and share with you as much knowledge and wisdom as possible.
Here is a list of recommended reading. Some of them concern the philosophical underpinnings or values of our work, and most are self-help resources that would likely be an accessible resource that compliments your progress. As most things in life none of them is perfect and all come with their limitations. Please discuss with your therapist about what would likely be relevant or helpful to your particular situation or personality.
We stock a few copies of each at the Eggshell Therapy site at low price, you are more than welcome to flip through or purchase them on your visit.
Here is a list of recommended reading for BPD- Most of them have been screened to be of good quality, and sorted in categories to avoid information overload. The library is organised for general public rather than therapists, with some exceptions. Most books on Mentalisation, for instance, are written for clinicians. But we strongly believe in information sharing so you may find some clinical books useful.
Other Recommended Reading
Reinventing your life
By Jeffrey Young
Themes: maladaptive emotional and behavioural patterns
This is the popular book version of schema therapy, an effective treatment for borderline personality disorder. This book shows readers how to break 11 common, self-defeating emotional patterns (schema, ‘life-traps’) that concern issues of abandonment, dependence, trust, social rejection, emotional deprivation, failure and vulnerability. This is a relatively easy-to-read, balanced book that introduce a way of working with our mind that is beyond the basic Cognitive- Behavioural Therapy approach. The book is recommended as a stand-alone self-help book or as a companion to Schema Therapy with a trusted therapist.
The Undervalued Self: Restore Your Love/Power Balance, Transform the Inner Voice That Holds You Back, and Find Your True Self-Worth
By Elaine Aron
Themes: Shame, self- esteem, maladaptive emotional and behavioural patterns
This book tackles the issues of low self-esteem, internalised shame, maladaptive schema, it expands on the defensive mechanisms one may employ and how to overcome them. Apart from touching on the archetypes of the Protector/Persecutor, she also describes awareness and mindfulness as being requisite for a valued self. In a way, this book is a synthesis of various new wave approaches to therapy. It is a smooth synthesis of many relevant, effective concepts and modalities such as Family System Therapy, Schema Therapy, neuropsychology, self-parenting, and inner child work. If you can relate to the beautifully simple idea of ‘linking’ and ‘ranking’ Dr. Aron has proposed, this can be a compelling read.
Hardwiring Happiness: The Practical Science of Reshaping Your Brain–and Your Life
By Rick Hanson
The author Hanson has brought together ideas in modalities such as NLP, Mindfulness, positive psychology and humanistic therapy into something that offers hope but also acknowledge the depth of human sufferings. The book stands out with the ground-breaking ‘Let Be, Let Go, Let In’ model. The author eloquently captures how modern psychotherapy has dealt with ‘Let Be’ (via Mindfulness’s ‘sitting with’, ‘being with’ attitude) , and the go-getter, problem solving ‘Let Go’ element (CBT, Change Strategies); yet adds the much neglected aspect of ‘Let In’— how to increase and reinforce positive experiences in life, and how that can lead to long lasting changes. The methods outlined in the book are very easy to follow and even easier to try to use. This is not merely a “think positive” book; but is supported by science behind brain plasticity. For those interested in more theories/ the idea of neuroplasticity, Hanson is also the author of a bestselling title called ‘Buddha’s Brain’, where he expanded on the ongoing brain development and processes that impact hardwiring in neuroscience.
Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha
By Tara Brach
Themes: Shame, mindfulness
“Believing that something is wrong with us is a deep and tenacious suffering,” says Tara Brach at the start of this illuminating book. Writing with great warmth and clarity, Tara Brach brings her teachings alive through personal stories and case histories, fresh interpretations of Buddhist tales, and guided meditations. Step by step, she leads us to trust our innate goodness, showing how we can develop the balance of clear-sightedness and compassion that is the essence of Radical Acceptance. Radical Acceptance does not mean self-indulgence or passivity. Instead it empowers genuine change: healing fear and shame and helping to build loving, authentic relationships. When we stop being at war with ourselves, we are free to live fully every precious moment of our lives.
By Julia Ross
It is a well- accepted belief that most mood problems have their roots in biochemical imbalances. Anti-depressants have their values but often create many undesirable side-effects. The author Julia Ross has been working with natural nutritional solutions at her clinic for over 15 years – and with dramatic results. She has developed a nutritional plan using specific foods and supplements that can potentially lift ones’ mood by restoring the body’s natural chemical balance. We are judicious on its claim to be ‘the cure’, but this is a fantastic book if you are looking to compliment psychotherapy with other lifestyle changes, and feel doubtful about traditional medication. The author also advocates a higher protein, lower refined sugar diet, and gives useful tips on nutritional supplements which can reduce cravings.
How to be an adult in Relationships
By David Richo
"Most people think of love as a feeling," says David Richo, "but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present." In this book, Richo offers a fresh perspective on love and relationships—one that focuses not on finding an ideal mate, but on becoming a more loving and realistic person.