Having Thin Skin: What does it mean?
People with ‘thin skin’, or ‘thin boundary’ are more sensitive than those with thick boundaries. Their bodies and brains absorb and feel more signals from their surroundings. They react strongly to sensory stimuli and can become irritated by things like bright lights, loud sounds, particular aromas, tastes or textures.
‘I am often told that I should grow a thicker skin. I’m too sensitive. I let things get to me too much.’
“For a highly sensitive person, a drizzle feels like a monsoon.”
Having Thin Skin? Having Thick Skin?
The Boundaries in the Mind concept, developed by Ernest Hartmann, offers an angle from which we can understand individual differences in sensitivity.
Boundaries in the Mind is a concept that characterises the way a person operates in the world, particularly how that person handles energies and feeling tone of his or her surroundings: To what extent are stimuli “let in” or “kept out”? How are a person’s feelings processed internally?
Quoting Hartmann’s words:
“There are people who strike us as very solid and well organized; they keep everything in its place. They are well defended. They seem rigid, even armoured; we sometimes speak of them as “thick-skinned.
At the other extreme are people who are especially sensitive, open, or vulnerable. In their minds, things are relatively fluid… such people have particularly thin boundaries.”
To recap, having thin skin, or having thin boundary means you are highly sensitive and may demonstrate the following from an early age:
Reacting more strongly to sensory stimuli and can become agitated due to bright lights, loud sounds, particular aromas, tastes or textures.
Responding more strongly to physical and emotional pain in themselves as well as in others.
Becoming stressed or fatigued due to an overload of sensory or emotional input.
Be more allergic and have immune systems that are more reactive.
Be more deeply affected by events during childhood.
People with thick boundaries, in contrast, are often described as stolid or thick-skinned, they may have the tendency to:
Brush aside upsetting emotions, in order to solve the problems at hand or to get practical matters in order.
Have less apparent mood swings, are slower to recognise how and what they are feeling.
Less sensitive to subtle changes or nuances in their environment.
May experience an ongoing sense of detachment and sometimes emptiness.
It is worth pointing out that people with thick boundaries experiences are affected by feelings as much as people with thin boundaries. This was indicated by bodily signals such as heart rates, blood pressure, hand temperature and tension in experiments.
Having Thin Skin- Who has Thin Boundaries?
The colloquial term ‘having thin skin’ may have a scientific basis. Since its discovery in the 1980s, at least 5,000 people have taken Hartmann’s Boundary Questionnaire (BQ) and more than 100 published papers have referenced it. Research is mounting to build a picture of issues and symptoms that are associated with the ‘thickness’ of mind-boundaries.
Interestingly, significantly thinner boundaries were found in the following population:
– art students (Beal, 1989, Hartmann, 1991)
– music students
– mixed groups of creative persons (Beal, 1989)
– frequent dream recallers (Hartmann, 1991, Hartmann Elkin, & Garg 1991)
– adults and adolescents with nightmares (Hartmann, 1991, Levin, Galin, & Zywiak 1991; Galvin, 1993)
– male and female fashion models (Ryan 2000)
– persons with unusual mystical experiences (Krippner,, Wickramasekera, Wickramasekera, & Winstead, 1998),
– persons with a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder, Schizoid Personality Disorder or Schizotypal Personality Disorder (Hartmann, 1991).
On the other hand, groups that score significantly “thicker” on the inventories include:
– naval officers
– persons with a diagnosis of Obsessive-compulsive Personality Disorder
– persons suffering from “Alexythymia” (Hartmann, 1991)
– patients with a diagnosis of Sleep Apnea (Hartmann, 1992).
Having thin skin may have implications beyond psychology. The concept of mind-boundaries is unique in that it also ties in with an impact on physical health. It was found that thick boundary people are more prone to hypertension, chronic fatigue syndrome, and ulcers; whereas thin boundary people are more susceptible to migraine, irritable bowel syndrome, and allergies. There also appears to be a relationship between thin boundaries and multiple chemical sensitivities (Jawer, 2001).
In their work ‘Your Emotional Type’, Dr. M. Jawer and M. Micozzi pointed out that being aware of your emotional type (where you are on the mind-boundary spectrum) would allow you to access the kind of support that is more likely to benefit you.
Interestingly, a survey suggests that people with thin boundaries are more likely to value psychotherapy, to have been involved in psychotherapy, and to have benefited from psychotherapy (Hartmann, 1996). In other words, people with thin boundaries likely make up the majority of therapy clients. Despite its limitations (lack of quantitative data, inevitable generalisations), the idea of mind-boundaries offer a unique framework that can enhance therapy effectiveness by valuing individual differences.
Have you got thick/thin boundaries?
For a quick reference, here are a few items listed on the boundary inventory. For further information please refer to ‘The Emotional Type’ developed by Dr. M. Jawer and M. Micozzi :
My feelings blend into one another.
I am easily hurt.
I spend a lot of time daydreaming, fantasizing or in reverie.
Sometimes it’s scary when one gets too involved with another person.
A good parent has to be a bit of a child, too.
I can easily imagine myself as an animal or what it might be like to be an animal.
When something happens to someone close to me, it is almost as if it happened to me.
In my dreams, people merge into each other or become other people.
There are no sharp dividing lines between normal people, people with problems and people who are considered psychotic or crazy.
I am far from a down-to-earth, no-nonsense kind of person.
I have had the experience of someone calling me or speaking my name and not being sure whether it was really happening or whether I was imagining it.
It would appear that the difficulties and woundings experienced by a person with thin boundaries are not dissimilar to that experienced by others with heightened emotional sensitivities. Without awareness and understanding, one can imagine how sensitive people might have been plagued with misunderstanding and confusion for many years.
Awareness and information about individual differences are invaluable in that they can help you make sense of your life history. By reviewing events and difficulties that you have experienced through a new perspective, you can realise where many of the old hurtful, uninvited commentaries might have come from, and be liberated to embark on a journey of true self-discovery.
“I’ve never gotten thick skin. If you close yourself off and you get this protective armor, there is a price you pay with that – of not feeling. And feeling is important when you are a songwriter.” – Taylor Swift