the Process

I take an integrative and practical approach that works specifically with issues related to emotional intensity.

Alongside discussions of your struggles and their psychodynamics, I will also give you homework in-between sessions that help you to tap into the more intuitive, spontaneous and imaginative part of your brain. For examples of the work we might do and themes we would touch on, please visit the Eggshell Portal.

Although the process it often organic and non- linear, categorising the change process into the following phases might help clarify what actually happens in the work.

For a more detailed explanation of what we may achieve through the process, please refer to the Roadmap. 




To start, we will try to understand what troubles you and stops you from being your best self. We will work towards identifying some of your old survival strategies, behavioural or thinking patterns that no longer serve you. For example, in your subconscious there might be mind-imagery, specific memories, and deep feelings around certain beliefs: ‘People will always leave me in the end’, ‘I can never trust anyone’, ‘I do not fit in anywhere’. In your attempts to lessen the pain, you might have developed destructive habits or self- sabotaging patterns.

If you have been through therapy or counselling before you may have come across them as ‘Defences’, ‘Negative Automatic Thoughts’, ‘Life Traps’, ‘Maladaptive Schema’, ‘Inner Critic’, ‘Negative self-talks’ etc. To keep things simple, I call them ‘Blockages’. And since they take a wide variety of forms based on who you are and your personal history, I will work with you to design and prioritise your goals.

During this phase, we shall work together to understand more about the parts of you that you don’t like or want, and you can begin to feel your inner tension and conflict softening. For example, I might start by asking you to make concrete this inner destructive force: If your inner critic were a person, what will they be like (man/ woman, what do they sound like, look like, etc)? Does your inner criticism comes in a particular shape, size, form or colour? What bodily sensations do you get when feel shame? Could you draw it out on a piece of paper?

Theories that are relevant at this phase:

Maladaptive Schemas, Behavioural Modifications, System theories, learning about family dynamics.


PHASE 2: bouncing back AND integratinG


Once we have identified your blockages, we learn how to manage and, in some cases, transform these challenging parts. We aim at lessening the times when you feel overwhelmed, so you do not have to resort to avoidance or compensatory behaviours (over-eating, over spending, and other destructive habits). We want to integrate the more vulnerable, ‘younger’ parts of yourself, rather than rejecting them, and at the same time minding the  undisciplined, rageful and destructive part of yourself, as well as your inner critic.

Lasting changes require not only an intellectual understanding but also a relational experience. We will try to access some of your core wounds through experiential processes such as visual imagery or specific homework assignments.  This step is potentially life-changing, but can also be the most challenging. I will do my best to make sure that you have full control over the process and is free to go at a pace that feels safe for you.

Theories and techniques that are relevant to this phase:

Schema, Behavioural Analysis, Art and Symbol work, Relational corrective experience, Dream analysis, Mentalisation, Emotional Freedom Technique or tapping, Neurosculpting, journalling and personal narrative rescripting.




Our biggest goal is to build a solid sense of self for lasting resilience in all aspects of your life. Through a mixture of psychoeducation and relational experience, we may look at how you can gain inner strength, and to take care of yourself — Practically, Emotionally, Interpersonally, and Spiritually. By fully internalising and integrating these new capacities, we hope that you will be able to manage your own emotions, behaviours and relationships in the long run, even after having a course of coaching.

– Practical: Managing the balance between burn-out and bore-out; Learning to self-soothe; Lifestyle support; Life structuring; Learning to say no; meandering work politics, strategies on building your own creative career.

– Emotional: Befriending different emotions; Riding emotional storms and Managing destructive behaviours

– Interpersonal: Living Authentically; Honouring your values; Communicating your needs assertively; Having your deep desires heard, seen and received as your true self

Spiritual: Learning to trust life; Tapping into your creative resource; Finding your place in the world

Tools that are particularly helpful for growth at this phase:

Emotional Literacy, Mindfulness practice, Assertiveness skill, ‘Non-violent communication’, Transactional Analysis , Humanistic and Existential Psychologies, Group dynamics.


PHASE 4: moving towards YOUR full POTENTIAL


I hope that you can find a place in the world where you are not just tolerated, but celebrated. Remember, you are highly, but not overly intense and sensitive. By this time, I should have known you well enough to work with you to find out your strengths based on your personality and unique personal story. We can work towards maximising your potential by getting in touch with your gifts.

I deeply honour your deep yearning to be seen and heard as who you are, and by finding the right stage for your audience, the right channel for your gifts. We do this by tapping into the seed of your creativity, and channelling your existential angst into a sense of mission and purpose.

As you step into embracing your unique qualities, I hope you can learn to trust your unique ways of relating to the world and be able to connect to what you have to offer. Themes such as authentic existence, the meaning of life, and purpose of being come to the foreground of awareness, as you embark on the journey towards self- actualisation. Furthermore, I want you to build a life around your values so you do not struggle with inner conflicts that pain your soul. The work in this aspect may also include practical ways to increase productivity and to optimise your health, in order to facilitate your creativity. This may involve learning from artists and others who have achieved success in life.

Ideas and tools that are helpful in this phase: Jungian Psychology, Bibliotherapy, personality inventories such as the Enneagram, MBTI, performance coaching that facilitates lifestyle and habit changes, creativity tools such as the morning pages.


In a nutshell


To recap, our goals include, but are not restricted to the following:

1. Knowing your personal history and patterns well enough that when you fall back to old survival strategies or mind traps, you can wake up in reactivity and not let it run the show.

2. Knowing your emotions well enough that when it comes up you can recognise it, name it, and know what to do with it.

3. Being able to stay connected with others whilst being true to yourself.

4. Being empathic with others without losing your personal boundaries.

5. Knowing your unique strengths and gifts in order to live a fuller life.